“All living things are constantly developing. So too must our rituals and our personal notions of spirituality. If they do not, we risk the possibility of marking the most important events of our lives with rituals and ceremonies that seem hollow or unimportant to us.”
- from The Art of Ritual by Beck and Metrick
How do I apply for a marriage license in Indiana?
You will need to take the following documents to the Clerk’s office at the courthouse in the county in which one of you lives: births certificates for both parties, marriage and divorce papers if either of you were married before. You will then be required to complete an application that will want information such as a addresses, dates of birth, names, ages and addresses of parents and your mother’s maiden name. There is a 18 - 22 dollar fee. Your license will be issued to you while you wait. You can obtain your license up to six weeks before the ceremony. After the ceremony, the celebrant will sign the license. The license must be sent back to the Clerk’s office within 30 days. You will then receive your official copy in the mail from the Clerk’s office.
How do I change my name after I get married?
When you go the courthouse to get your marriage license, ask for two copies of your official license to be sent to you (you never know when an agency may need to keep a copy). Once you have received your license, take it along with your birth certificate (and divorce papers if this is not your first marriage) to the Social Security office to apply for a new card with a name change. You can call the Social Security office and request a form sent to you and then mail in your information, but there’s always the possibility that your documents can get lost. When you have received your new Social Security card you can then change your payroll records at work and go the motor vehicle branch (along with their other required documents) to change your name on your license. Don’t forget to change your name on your medical records, insurance policies, 401k plan and credit cards.
How do you know if the celebrant you‘ve chosen in right for you?
1. The celebrant listens to you.
2. The celebrant gets you.
3. The celebrant understands your story and makes it his/her goal to tell your story the way you want it told.
4. The celebrant is creative and thinks outside of the box with you.
5. The celebrant is not interested in what he/she wants, but what the couple wants.
6. You feel a personal connection with the celebrant.
7. The celebrant does not pressure you to make a decision about using their services on the spot.